“But it was only a long-distance relationship.”
“But you weren’t really together that long.”
“But you had doubts.”
“It could be worse.”
I hear myself, and a couple friends, say these things as if there is some qualifier on a relationship to justify feeling like crap when it is over. I am not exactly sure why my brain keeps trying to dismiss my feelings or force a rationalization on something that is in no way rational, but I would be happy if my brain would just shut up. All of these are true BUT I am still sad and I am still grieving a loss and it will take time to feel right again.
I hope my better future self does not try to qualify my inevitable future pain or the pain of others but just offers understanding and an ear.